So, I had an encore visit with the young cub. It was a pretty tedious experience.
He was very eager and had been messaging me since we hooked up about when I'd be free, did I like his ass, did it feel good, how much he enjoyed my cock, how he'd been tingling the next day. Very flattering, but a bit too needy.
Well I'd planned to go back and imagined if I could get him to relax it might be a better time (for me.) So once we got inside, he wanted to head right inside his bedroom, but was also focused on standing up to kiss. As an initial greeting yes; for a minute or two mixed in with preliminary groping, yes. Not for an eternity. I encouraged him to strip and I proceeded to the same. As I am considerably taller my hard cock wouldn't fit under his balls. His cock is much much smaller than mine, and it wasn't totally hard anyway, so that left out grasping our cocks together while kissing. So, directed him to lay down with me.
He immediately rolled over and presented his ass. I did want a bit of foreplay, first as I like to lead up to rimming and penetrating the other guy. I actually enjoy hugging and rubbing against each other and kissing.
Standing or laying down, the kissing was the first issue: again the frantic stabbing of his tongue in and out of my mouth. It was seriously irritating so I kindly advised him to relax: "suck my tongue; I'll suck your tongue; we will touch our tongues together." Cripes.
Then he was grasping my cock and, again frantically, jerking it. Nothing pleasant about that; it was close to hurting. I needed to advise him "gentle please."
Our previous encounter he'd said he was sorry he hadn't gotten to sucking my cock, When I encouraged him to spoon with me as part of the warm up he immediately assumed I wanted to go in so I asked "didn't you want to suck my cock." He started pistoning his head up and down at it in an alarming and uncomfortable fashion and I again had to firmly direct him "gentle". At this point he was getting irritated with being told to slow down; I was irritated that he wasn't getting the need to respond to your partner.
So I decided to get to the main course. His ass, is large but firm and nicely rounded, but it was hard as hell to get my tongue into him. And, while definitely clean, he gives off more of a mildew than musky aroma. I felt obligated to rim him but wasn't enjoying it. (Remember, this guy also doesn't like to get his cock sucked, or for you to stroke it.) Again, there was no response. He'd advised me during our earlier hook up that he doesn't respond during sex (that sort of kills your motivation.) Any other guy would be responding pleasurably to your licking his asshole and sticking your tongue into it. He'd thoughtfully not worn deodorant, but there was zero musk coming from his pits, which was a disappointment. I quickly stopped and decided to get to the main subject. This had become a chore.
The last time I'd just used spit and felt lube was in order; tops get rub burn as well. I'd brought some with me as he has gross Astroglide (no, I didn't criticize his lube. but he seemed quite disappointed that I wanted to use lube.) As it was he was tight and hard as hell to get into. I tried with him on his stomach but I think the size of his ass was preventing effective penetration, so while I thought I was in, I asked him to get on his side and to pull up his thigh at which point I pushed in. He wanted my cock balls deep, which I did, and I started to get into long strokes. I ask him to turn a bit and then he was complaining that it was hitting the curve in his guts in that position; he wanted me to resume him being totally on my side.
He whined he wanted all of it (how the hell do I fuck you if my cock is all the way inside you; it requires withdrawing a bit to fuck.) He immediately starting fucking me back with his ass, which was okay but again, frantic. I asked him to let me do the fucking, which offended him. (You can see where this is going.) So, he petulantly was lying there and not being very responsive but started to beg me to breed him.
First of all, it totally jams my head when a guy starts to chant: cum in me/breed me. When we're in a mutual rhythm and both totally into the groove, he's responding and we are both enjoying it, it usually happens in due course. I take a while to get there, but I also try to respond to the bottom, and check periodically that he's not getting tired or sore. But when he's into you and you're into him, and you're both totally immersed in the experience, the cum will spurt out of my cock in due course (often I am holding back because I want the other guy to feel satisfied and to feel he got a proper fuck.)
Guys who I've really enjoyed (like the Hairy Arab) have kept me from cumming by prematurely (pardon the pun) pushing me to cum. This has also happened with some other guys I've been really into. There have also been other hook ups where I've faked just to be able to exit a suddenly tedious scene (despite the fantasies created by porn, few guys feel your cum actually spurting; those with greater experience sometimes will feel the throbbing of your cock.) There is simply a time, when the guy is making it clear he's almost there, that the bottom should ask to be bred and cheer to the top on; but not before the top has hit his groove.
If I am going to cum while fucking, it requires my cockhead getting a lot of friction; that usually doesn't happen when I am buried balls deep. So, I like to get us both my on our sides, and in a mellow fashion pull back to just inside and work three to five inches in and out of the guy, particularly working his anus. It feels great to work the entrance and most guys love it. Prior to this experience no guy I've been with didn't enjoy this. There is an exception to every rule, however, and this guy provided it. He whined he wanted it deeper (but clearly not so deep that it was pushing past the curve...which other guys typically love.)
At this point I simply wanted it over, but my head wasn't collaborating with my dick. They need to be in sync because orgasm (for me) requires choreography of mind and body. I can't cum on command if I am not enjoying it.
During a good connection, I will periodically take a break. We get sweaty; his prostate is asking for a break; I am over stimulated. It's usually good: leisurely kissing, stroking, hugging, spooning. And then we resume and typically I cum pretty quickly after penetrating him again.
Well, this guy seemed to resent my wanting a break. He then started to interrogate me with questions about my personal life (dude: this is a HOOK UP. We already went through the preliminaries. He challenged me because on one site my age was two years younger than another...uh, because some sites don't automatically update, Einstein.) Btw, this guy has a partner but they are oral only...) I was laying there and calmly responding trying to not act irritated but I was mostly finding the questions, and him, tedious.
We gave it another try but I pulled out and told him it wasn't going to happen that day. So I forced small talk, leisurely dressed, and did my best to get out without seeming to rush. But as I was driving away I was cursing myself for being a goddamned fool once again. He had walked me out to my car and gave me a tender hug making me wonder whether I hadn't just endured the previous experience.
When I got home he some messages of regret. I responded graciously, wished he and his partner well. There were a series of them and I responded kindly to each. And then decided enough was enough and blocked him, which made me feel a bit shitty, but considering the rash of stalking messages he sent me to get me to agree to connect I was genuinely worried about being stalked. But, quite simply, I simply need to start employing greater cognitive dissonance.
